so, why india?

(post by Jess)

It’s out. ROBBY AND JESS ARE ADOPTING FROM INDIA!  Now what? Good question. Tangibly, for us, it’s finishing up paperwork.  Then waiting. Maybe for a while. So where do you come in? You family, friends, followell fotography clients/fans, church body, mentors, blog readers, skeptics or curious–what is your role? What is adoption all about? In short- I know barely more than the general public and far less than those well versed in the land of orphan care. You are not the only ones with a lot of questions. We are just learning about the who, what, when where and whys ourselves.  We welcome this next part of our adventure with wide open arms. So, ask. Ask whatever you want. And at the end of the questions there will hopefully be answers that lead to knowledge, knowledge that leads to understanding and understanding that leads to a greater involvement for all of us to care for orphans. Or maybe even bring one home.

First question we want to tackle is the one we’re asked most, “Why India?”

Sitting on our couch one night Robby showed me a trailer to a documentary being made about India posted by one of our friends (thanks Drew Crawford). Click HERE if you want to see it.  It captures the devaluing of little girls to the point of murder and abandonment.  In a world full of social media, images of the hurting and suffering are not new. In fact, I’d say I was somewhat numb to my heart being moved by every image of hurt and neglect I’d seen in the past. But this time, it was different. Maybe because we now have a little girl of our own? Neverthleess, the weeping that poured out of me after that video got our attention.

Adoption had always been something that Robby and I talked about. But now, as we became aware and our hearts became softened to the mistreatment of little girls around the world, our interest in adoption grew. And after this video, our sights became focused on India. After referring to the all-knowing Google, we learned that India was closed for US adoptions and had been for the past 2 years.  For some reason that didn’t deter us for long because we immediately found the agency that was assigned to our location (educational note: If adopting from India, you must go through one of their Hague accredited agencies nearest to where you live).  Pat at Children of the World was the name that we clicked on to contact and simply sent her a short email asking for any details on India and when she thought it would open up. 7:30 am next day rolls around and I get a “ding” on my phone that I have an email. It’s from Pat. And it’s not short. Pat had adopted 2 girls from India herself that were now grown giving Pat a personal connection with the country we were learning all about. She also informed us that the same day as we sent our email, she received one from the government of India announcing that they were now accepting applications for international adoption.

I’d like to say that was it, but Robby and I both prayed for the next week about it as well as asked the Lord to give us some signs.   All of a sudden India was everywhere. On twitter Apple wrote “Apple stores moving to India”. A man inquired about Robby’s scooter and asked what country it was manufactured in. Robby stooped to look on the back.  India.  The Wallstreet Journal started doing a series of stories on India. Robby literally ran into an Indian man walking out of the hair salon. These may seem like silly coincidences that should not affirm such a big decision. But put bluntly, we don’t believe in coincidences and at this point were either to be obedient and take the adventure, or ignore specific and personal answers to prayer.

I want to interrupt to boldly add that our goal is not to be irreverent or belittling to the country of India. Right now there are nationals fighting on behalf of the orphans who are more appalled by the disregard for human life than we are. They just need help in the fight because the battle is big.

So, why India? We were drawn directly, intensely and definitely to that country, those people, and our daughter by our Father.  Since that drawing it has been just one step after another. Right now it seems like we are just adding a little girl to our family. However, I’m beginning to see that this is going to be a much more involved process. At its full potential, this is going to change who we are and hopefully increase our humility and selflessness; it will educate others that orphans are not a sad cause but ACTUAL people that need us to stand in the gap as their advocates; and maybe it will turn eyes and open hearts to the origin of adoption–Christ claiming us as His own.

These adoption posts will be monthly, bi-weekly at most. Personal and raw, educational and informative. If you have questions please ask, encouragements please give. A glimpse of our hearts will be shown, but for full view you must ask.  Our needs will be expressed, prayers given and pictures posted :)


Recently asked questions:

How long? Right now we are not sure. Paperwork will be sent in August and will know more after that.  Probability is 9 months to 2 years.

How old? Specified age bracket of 2 years or younger.

Is she born yet? We don’t know and won’t know until we are matched with her.



Perseverance in finishing paperwork.

Wisdom about financial planning.

Endurance for the wait.

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  • Sheila MathenyJuly 12, 2012 - 10:37 pm

    What an inspiration you and Robby are!! We’re thrilled at your decision, and can’t wait for updates on the process!! Keeping all of you in my prayers.

  • Katie RosenbaumJuly 13, 2012 - 8:01 am

    This is beyond inspiring for me. Thank you so much for letting the Lord craft bold & willing hearts into you both! And I know the same will be true with both of your daughters! Jesus Himself said that He would not leave us as orphans, that He would come for us. And indeed, we too have been sent to do the same thing. Cannot wait to continue watching this journey.

    Rejoice always, be watchful in prayer, receive God’s wisdom, and trust His word. Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength. They shall rise up on wings like eagles. They shall run and not grow weary. They shall walk and not be faint.

  • Hannah WallaceJuly 13, 2012 - 8:05 am

    Great post! The same thing happened to us- all of a sudden, everywhere we looked, everything we saw was about adoption, international adoption, and Ethiopia. It was a great comfort those first few months, it was as if God was making it common, making it seem easier and it was. We met tons of people to connect with.
    We will be praying for y’all for sure!

  • Kristy ClineJuly 13, 2012 - 9:45 am

    Jess and Robby, wow, this is an awesome decision. I’ll be keeping your family in my prayers. I’ve been beyond blessed this year to get to work with a foster child who has touched my life so much. I know what it is like when God lays something like this on your heart. Thank you for sharing, you two are precious and I am so excited to see how God is blessing you!


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